The Kind Of Man A Woman Marries
January 21st, 2012 § 7 Comments
Men spend most of their time with people whose values they share; therefore men tend to be judged by others based on the company they keep. The kind of man a woman marries surrounds himself with people of integrity who are not only doing positive things with their lives, but also who are committed to living a good life. Giving and receiving in equal balance are key to feeling loved and fulfilled in a relationship. Good relationships are meant to be balanced where two people are equally and mutually invested mentally, physically, and spiritually in a partnership based on trust and respect.
The kind of man a woman marries knows that in order to have a truly loving and honest relationship with the woman he loves he needs to be honest about who he is and how he’s feeling, even when he’s not feeling good about himself. The kind of man a woman marries doesn’t shut the woman he loves out of his heart and mind. He knows that if he’s going to stay in a close and loving relationship with the woman in his life he can’t hide away; he must be willing to show his feelings and allow the woman in his life to be with him during difficult times instead of isolating himself. The kind of man a woman marries is her best friend, lover, and partner in life.
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That’s a good blog, however, overall men and women still don’t understand each other well enough to support true balance. Each must show up, pay attention and be present. In my 47 years of dating, there’s been only one that understands relationships as well as I do. And to look at us, you wouldn’t know that we broke up 3 months ago.
Blessings…
Sorry to hear about your breakup. Like everything else in life relationships must be worked on and in order to do that communication is key. One must feel comfortable enough with the other person in order to share both the good, the bad and what one needs and expects from a relationship.
In a good relationship there is no guilt or obligation to make certain decisions, you do things because you feel deep in your heart you want to do it and that’s what I mean about balance. Both persons should feel the same way about each other. We all know when we are in a type of situation where things are just not working out and an honest person would recognize that and set the other person free instead of binding them to a commitment that in the long run is never going to work.
The key to great relationships is friendship. If you don’t have a friend in the other person you are pretty much disconnected from what will keep it together as the years go by.
Because we broke-up doesn’t mean it wasn’t successful, we [the world] have this fixsasion that a successful relationship ends happily-ever-after. You’re right, relationships require a LOT of work, always focused, attentive to every need… However, sometimes your best is just not good enough, because no two people think alike. The great illusion, is to believe we have all the answers. In every relationship there is an emotional side, a spiritual side, a mental side, a physical side… all these need equal attention, and to think your partner will meet all those needs, is crazy. I find when living or loving from unattached outcomes, gives me the freedom to deside what is successful.
Blessings…
I agree with you, there are no failures in life because we learn from all situations and each experience helps us become stronger and better people. I am 46 and I have had 3 long term relationships in my life and because of those relationships I know what I do not want and what I want from a relationship. It has taken me a very long time almost 8 years alone to become the woman I am today. In my next relationship there are things I must have an agreement with, I want to be married and at my age I am not having kids, I may consider adopting a child if that is something he truly wants. I also need respect, loyalty and communication from the man in my life. We must be friends before we move into an intimate situation. We also need to have interests in common and similar goals in life. I want for both of us to feel together we are making our dreams come true instead of settling for what the other wants. Everything else will need work and compromise.
No one can meet our inner needs we need to figure out how we can do that for ourselves but it makes it a lot easier when both persons have had similar life experiences and share key core values. Attaching ourselves to specific outcomes prevents us from seeing the endless possibilities available to us but we do need to know what it is we want before we can make wise choices.
Thank you for sharing and blessings to you Christopher!
I agree with you, oftentimes when we get into relationships, we mistake that first whiff of attraction for love only to find out that it’s not the case. It’s much better to take things slower and not even get into a relationship right away. In that way, you allow yourself and the other person to be their more authentic selves and not the person they think you want. At that point, if and when you are falling in love it’s probably the real thing not something in your imagination.
So true Lydia.
Relationships can be tough once the initial excitement wears off. It’s very important to choose the right person, someone you want to be with no matter how you’re both changing.